Supression & Repression.

During a discussion recently a person I know was seen adamant in asserting the negative role of repressed outlook in successful trait development. I was content to note that this subject is been in lime light; thanks to numerous Human Resource Management, motivation and counseling programs, which are now at easy reach.
Why does this repressed thought is so powerful yet so destructive?
Any repressed or subdued thought or feeling is negative or destructive when it is of adverse objective. Whereas a positive thought suppressed can be powerful, if directed in its due course.
Now the question here is, how we will differentiate the adverse one from the positive or harmless one. I said harmless because some are not negative as well as fruitful, which renders it harmless.
I may give here a classic example of a harmless looking but a negative subdued thought that has a handicapped outcome in a healthy human trait.
A student from a poor family was forced to wear his elder brothers shirt, since he didn?t had a good one for school that day. The shirt hangs right to his toes of his leg, since his elder brother had a much bigger physique, giving a look of a overcoat. The boy is greeted with mocking & laughter at school, among his friends, neighbors & others. This creates a shock, where the boy identifies his inability to groom in good dress like his fellow friends. This shock where the boy identifies his shortcoming, is the reason for the start of repress.
That was a flash back. Today that boy is 25 years old young man & earning handsomely. That man has 6 cupboards of costly dress. Change dress at least four times a day. Spend 70% of his earning on dress, costumes & other ready-made accessories. If any one asks him why he is doing this, he has no answers. But his parents? sure do has the answer, since they remember the long back incident that took place in boy?s child hood.
The handicapped behavior of amassing cloths & dress was triggered from a silent place of his subconscious mind. Deep there a small message was inhibited saying, ?Good dress & good grooming was inevitable for a acceptable life.
Craving good dress is sure not a wrong thing and looks harmless. But the incident, circumstances & awkward result it all together created render it negative / destructive. A simple self-interrogation in ones own behavior or character can reveal a lot & gives room for self-correction
So?why do we switch cars in short period even if it?s of better quality?why did mother Theresa determined to stay back in India caring the poor& needy? Sure some are destructive some are positive.

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Base For Dreams.
We know all our wishes may not be fruitful. But cant we segregate the possible one's from immpossible, or least probable. The self ridicule us by interpreting motivation theories with reality and realizaton. I dont claim resposibiltiy on teacher, parents or any one who induced the " Go and get the Highest" Kind of attitude. Nor i assert my conjecture against environment we live, the competition, the freedom or mere the attitude of new mankind. The mistake was with us. The mistake of not being satisfied and content of what we have.
What are the results of this inappropriate symmetry between physical reality and subconsious Psycho-Attitude, induced or repressed in a unknown part of your brain? Anwer is simple ! It is the inabilty to Synchronize the present state of life with the only availabe or derserving resources.
Here resourses means physical or mental, ranging from wealth, financial, spiritual, worldly pleasures, relationship, fame, glory, recognition ar anything you want to own in this world. Dreaming is intended to ignite the drive for a deserving go. A wish is weaved in a value based manner, equally accommodating the tradition, culture, religion, social and Human nature. Thats why we were wrong when we wished to invent leathel weapons, we were worng when we dream about conquering another man's territory, we were wrong when we dream about having another mans wife, we were wrong when we dream and applied for a job which we dont deserve, we were wrong when we dream of extravaganza even if we cant afford it. Think about it.

Tall Dreams ...But Short Reality..!!

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We have taller buildings but shorter tempers;

wider freeways but narrower viewpoints;

We spent more but have less; we buy more but enjoy it less;

We’ve been all the way to the moon and back but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbour;

We’ve captured outer space but not inner space;

We’ve split the atom but not our prejudice;

We write more but learn less; plan more but accomplish less.

We’ve learned to rush but not to wait;

We have higher incomes but lower morals;

We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies but have less communication.

We are long on quantity but not on quality.

..We really dream Tall..but the reality remains Short..!!! Suraj V

We DREAM More.. We Get Everthing..But We Reatain NOTHING
Today we have bigger houses but smaller families;
more conveniences but less time;
We have more degrees but less common sense;
more knowledge but less judgement;
We have more experts but more problems;
more medicines but less well-being;
We spent too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get angry too quickly, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too often and pray too seldom.
We’ve multiplied our possessions but reduced our values;
We talk too much, love too little and lie too often.
We’ve learned to make a living but not a life;
We’ve added years to life and not life to years.