Supression & Repression.
During a discussion recently a person I know was seen adamant in asserting the negative role of repressed outlook in successful trait development. I was content to note that this subject is been in lime light; thanks to numerous Human Resource Management, motivation and counseling programs, which are now at easy reach.
Why does this repressed thought is so powerful yet so destructive?
Any repressed or subdued thought or feeling is negative or destructive when it is of adverse objective. Whereas a positive thought suppressed can be powerful, if directed in its due course.
Now the question here is, how we will differentiate the adverse one from the positive or harmless one. I said harmless because some are not negative as well as fruitful, which renders it harmless.
I may give here a classic example of a harmless looking but a negative subdued thought that has a handicapped outcome in a healthy human trait.
A student from a poor family was forced to wear his elder brothers shirt, since he didn?t had a good one for school that day. The shirt hangs right to his toes of his leg, since his elder brother had a much bigger physique, giving a look of a overcoat. The boy is greeted with mocking & laughter at school, among his friends, neighbors & others. This creates a shock, where the boy identifies his inability to groom in good dress like his fellow friends. This shock where the boy identifies his shortcoming, is the reason for the start of repress.
That was a flash back. Today that boy is 25 years old young man & earning handsomely. That man has 6 cupboards of costly dress. Change dress at least four times a day. Spend 70% of his earning on dress, costumes & other ready-made accessories. If any one asks him why he is doing this, he has no answers. But his parents? sure do has the answer, since they remember the long back incident that took place in boy?s child hood.
The handicapped behavior of amassing cloths & dress was triggered from a silent place of his subconscious mind. Deep there a small message was inhibited saying, ?Good dress & good grooming was inevitable for a acceptable life.
Craving good dress is sure not a wrong thing and looks harmless. But the incident, circumstances & awkward result it all together created render it negative / destructive. A simple self-interrogation in ones own behavior or character can reveal a lot & gives room for self-correction
So?why do we switch cars in short period even if it?s of better quality?why did mother Theresa determined to stay back in India caring the poor& needy? Sure some are destructive some are positive.
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Why does this repressed thought is so powerful yet so destructive?
Any repressed or subdued thought or feeling is negative or destructive when it is of adverse objective. Whereas a positive thought suppressed can be powerful, if directed in its due course.
Now the question here is, how we will differentiate the adverse one from the positive or harmless one. I said harmless because some are not negative as well as fruitful, which renders it harmless.
I may give here a classic example of a harmless looking but a negative subdued thought that has a handicapped outcome in a healthy human trait.
A student from a poor family was forced to wear his elder brothers shirt, since he didn?t had a good one for school that day. The shirt hangs right to his toes of his leg, since his elder brother had a much bigger physique, giving a look of a overcoat. The boy is greeted with mocking & laughter at school, among his friends, neighbors & others. This creates a shock, where the boy identifies his inability to groom in good dress like his fellow friends. This shock where the boy identifies his shortcoming, is the reason for the start of repress.
That was a flash back. Today that boy is 25 years old young man & earning handsomely. That man has 6 cupboards of costly dress. Change dress at least four times a day. Spend 70% of his earning on dress, costumes & other ready-made accessories. If any one asks him why he is doing this, he has no answers. But his parents? sure do has the answer, since they remember the long back incident that took place in boy?s child hood.
The handicapped behavior of amassing cloths & dress was triggered from a silent place of his subconscious mind. Deep there a small message was inhibited saying, ?Good dress & good grooming was inevitable for a acceptable life.
Craving good dress is sure not a wrong thing and looks harmless. But the incident, circumstances & awkward result it all together created render it negative / destructive. A simple self-interrogation in ones own behavior or character can reveal a lot & gives room for self-correction
So?why do we switch cars in short period even if it?s of better quality?why did mother Theresa determined to stay back in India caring the poor& needy? Sure some are destructive some are positive.
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